I wanted to share some of the books that we have read on my blog. Please feel free to look them up if need be to get a better understanding of how our lives will be.
The first book that I read was "Building the Bonds of Attachment - Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children" by Daniel Hughes. I started this book right after we had our BIP (Best Interest Placement) meeting with CYFD. This book was recommended to us by the girls therapist. This book was quite the wake-up call to me. The book starts with the life of a little girl named Katie that lived with her birth mother and troubled birth father. It was the real life story of how this child entered the foster care system from an extremely early age. It was detailed events of horrible abuse of a child and how it affected her throughout her early life. This was shocking to me; I could not put the book down. My emotions while reading ranged from being angered, crying, smiling, and hopeful. I knew that there was a reason this book was recommend to us. Since reading the book and having various meetings, it was beneficial that I knew a little more of what we will be experiencing.
Book Description
Publication Date: August 8, 2006
Building the Bonds of Attachment is the second edition of a critically and professionally acclaimed book for social workers, therapists, and parents who strive to assist children with reactive attachment disorder. This work is a composite case study of the developmental course of one child following years of abuse and neglect. Building the Bonds of Attachment focuses on both the specialized psychotherapy and parenting that is often necessary in facilitating a child's psychological development and attachment security. It develops a model for intervention by blending attachment theory and research, trauma theory, and the general principles of parenting, and child and family therapy. This book is a practical guide for the adult—whether professional or parent—who endeavors to help such children. The second edition of this widely popular book will present the many changes in the intervention model over the past 8 years. These include many changes in both the psychotherapist's and parent's interventions. The attachment history of the adults is made more relevant. There is greater congruence between attachment theory and research and the interventions being demonstrated as well as greater reference to this theory and research.
The second book that I am almost done reading is "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook--What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing" by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz.
This book is a collection of short real life stories of troubled children and the recollection of events from their early childhood that lead them to where they are today. The author digs more into the brain and how it functions in dealing with traumatic events. I hope to be finished with this book by the end of this week.
Editorial Reviews
From Publishers Weekly
In beautifully written, fascinating accounts of experiences working with emotionally stunted and traumatized children, child psychiatrist Perry educates readers about how early-life stress and violence affects the developing brain. He offers simple yet vivid illustrations of the stress response and the brain's mechanisms with facts and images that crystallize in the mind without being too detailed or confusing. The stories exhibit compassion, understanding and hope as Perry paints detailed, humane pictures of patients who have experienced violence, sexual abuse or neglect, and Perry invites the reader on his own journey to understanding how the developing child's brain works. He learns that to facilitate recovery, the loss of control and powerlessness felt by a child during a traumatic experience must be counteracted. Recovery requires that the patient be "in charge of key aspects of the therapeutic interaction." He emphasizes that the brain of a traumatized child can be remolded with patterned, repetitive experiences in a safe environment. Most importantly, as such trauma involves the shattering of human connections, "lasting, caring connections to others" are irreplaceable in healing; medications and therapy alone cannot do the job. "Relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love," Perry concludes. (Jan.)
We have also watched a very educational video called "Trust-Based Parenting Creating Lasting Changes in Your Child's Behavior." This was a probably the best at addressing issues that we will be encountering. This DVD offers in-depth training for parents of children with trauma-based behavioral issues. The Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI®) is a unique intervention model created by developmental psychologists Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross, founders of the Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University. It is based on more than a decade of research and hands-on work with vulnerable children and their families. Dr. Purvis coined the phrase “children from hard places” to describe children who have experienced abuse, neglect, abandonment and/or trauma in early development.
Their survival behaviors can be confusing, frustrating and difficult to manage even for the most patient and loving parents. This nearly four-hour video features Dr. Purvis and Cross coaching families through real-life, problem-solving scenarios. They demonstrate proven, practical skills and strategies for applying TBRI® Empowering, Connecting and Correcting Principles to everyday life to build a stronger parent-child connection, which leads to better behavior. Parents from around the world praise TBRI® for giving them hope in times of crisis and lifelong solutions that can benefit the entire family.
I already have the next two books ready to dive into. These next two were given to us by the girls therapist at La Familia. "The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family" by Karyn Purvis. I really look forward to reading this book. It was next on my list to purchase for the kindle, but the therapist gave me her hard copy.
Written by two research psychologists specializing in adoption and attachment, The Connected Child will help you:
- Build bonds of affection and trust with your adopted child
- Effectively deal with any learning or behavioral disorders
- Discipline your child with love without making him or her feel threatened
The other book that we received seems like a short read with some great ideas. It is called "I Love You Rituals" by Becky A. Bailey. This is a really sweet book and I know it will be helpful since it was given to us by a person that really knows M&S, it will definitely be something that we will use.
Book Description
I look forward to learning and sharing all the experiences that I can!
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