Transition Day 12-first day of 3 overnights

Sean and I have enjoyed our day to ourselves yesterday and now we just completed the first day of the start of our 3 overnights in a row. We picked up M&S from a therapy appointment and headed home for lunch and a nap. Sean had to run to do some work out-processing items today. Lunch was quick and easy, but nap time was very difficult. We really want the girls to get used to being in their own rooms and beds. But I could see that a nap would not happen if they were not next to me in my bed. I let the girls get in our bed and after about 15 minutes of complaining about naps and moving all around the bed, we were all asleep. We had Risky, me, spike, S and M all in a line across the bed. After our hour nap we watched some Gator Man on Animal Planet and then Sean was home. Our surprise for the afternoon was going to the movies to see "Planes". The girls were pretty excited and the movie went really well. 

Learning:

We have learned some to stand our ground. We have to continue to stay strong on our word and that when we say no, it means no and we are serious and here to keep them save. We find times that they are used to compromising, which is ok at times and not ok at other times. We know we are being tested as well. At times it is so hard, and I know it's going to be harder before it gets easier. But at least some of the trials are happening now than later. 

We had a good evening at home, but bed time was a bit of a struggle. S was pretty tired, she even said she was tired, but refused to go to bed. She kept saying that she wanted to sleep in our bed. I feel that letting her sleep in our bed at night will continue to her always asking to sleep in our bed. Which also makes the nap time confusing in our bed as well. It's so hard to draw the line at times to make it all make sense to them. We will figure it out though. Sean spent 20 minutes with S in her room to make sure she was calm and for her to know that he was keeping her safe and to hopefully fall asleep soon. She soon was calm and able to get to sleep. This poor child is so confused about this process and will greatly miss all her connections she has here. 

We haven't had any major issues with M yet, but her therapists and foster parents insist her tantrums are 100 times worse. So we shall wait and see what happens. I may have a talk with her tomorrow in regards to what to expect and how she thinks we should handle it. 

We have enjoyed getting to know these little lovelies. S is such a daddies girl. She loves to be near him and asks about him when he is away. M sticks close to me and always is showing she is brave. I look forward to the good days and the bad days. And showing M&S how much we care and will keep them safe.